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I consult with the Wall

They say that once, someone asked Knesset Member Meir Porush, “Who is your rabbi? With whom do you consult when facing a dilemma or a crossroads? Litzman consults the Rebbe of Gur, Eichler with the Rebbe of Belz, Halpert with the Vizhnitzer Rebbe, Gafni with Rabbi Shteinman or Rabbi Chaim Kanievsky, Deri with Rabbi Ovadia. Who is your rabbi? With whom do you consult?”


They say Porush replied: “My rabbi is the Western Wall. For every question, I consult with the Weastern Wall.”


I have the impression that G-d is gradually leading the Jewish world toward a reality in which every person becomes increasingly independent. That every Jewish man and woman takes personal responsibility for their Judaism. And more broadly, that eventually everyone will, in one way or another, “consult” with their own version of the Wall—a source from which they draw strength, inspiration, power, confidence, peace of mind, and more—so they can make a decision, a decision they will ultimately make on their own.


Already back then, when Rabbi Yochanan ben Zakkai asked Vespasian Caesar, just before the destruction of the Temple, “Give me Yavne and its sages,” he essentially understood that the era in which there was one geographical center to serve G-d had, for the time being, passed—at least for the duration of the exile. And ever since that plea for “Yavne and its sages,” every person with a Talmud in hand can become a spiritual center for G-d. It’s less about “Yavne” and more about “its sages.” Every city can now be a Yavne if it has its sages.


Later on, there were periods when a city had just one community, and there was only one beit din (rabbinical court) per city. But gradually, things expanded: more communities, more groups, more customs, more traditions, and more prayer rites emerged. Today, nearly everywhere, there are several batei din, several prayer traditions, and multiple leaderships. My dear friend Rabbi Mendy Chitrik, the rabbi of the Ashkenazi community in Istanbul, once gave a lecture in our community and shared that in one of the important cities in Turkey, there was a single custom and rite until the Spanish Expulsion. When the exiles arrived, they immediately became the majority and prayed according to their own rites and customs.


Still, throughout the years, each community or group had one living leader who led it. In recent centuries, each circle had its “gadol”—its great rabbi—whom they lived with, consulted with, and listened to. But even that is gradually changing. In our times, there are hardly any individuals of that towering stature as there were not so long ago—not among Sephardim, not among Ashkenazim, not among Chassidim, and not among the non-Chassidic world. It seems that more and more, G-d is shifting the responsibility for Jewish life onto each individual.


When I was 14, the Rebbe gave a chilling talk. It was on the 28th of Nissan, 5751 (1991). Chabad Chassidim around the world were shaken. In the village where I grew up, there was a palpable sense of fear in the air during those days—and I’m not exaggerating. It came following a deeply powerful and even painful address about how Moshiach had not yet come. And then suddenly, the Rebbe said: “What more can I do… I don’t know. The only thing I can do is to hand it over to each of you. And do everything you can to bring Moshiach immediately.” At the end of that talk, the Rebbe crystallized his message in a sentence that every Chabad boy and girl can quote: “I have done all that I can; from now on, you must do all that you can.”


In hindsight, that was a moment in which the Rebbe transferred even more of his own responsibility as Rebbe to us, the Chassidim. Throughout the Rebbe’s leadership of Chabad Chassidim, he empowered and delegated authority and responsibility to his emissaries and followers. The early emissaries received detailed guidance. Those who went out in the 1980s relied more on what they heard from the earlier ones. And when they did ask the Rebbe how to act, the answer was often to consult with local Chabad leaders or rabbis, to seek advice from a mashpia. Eventually, every Chassid was expected to appoint for themselves a personal mashpia, what we call “aseh lecha rav”—a personal mentor. Until the 28th of Nissan, 5751, when the Rebbe suddenly said it all, publicly and clearly, on a weekday, and it was captured vividly on video.


In my personal conversations with my children, I tell them: Take responsibility for your Judaism. It’s yours. It’s not mine. It’s not your yeshiva rabbi’s. It’s not your seminary teacher’s. It’s yours.


That’s my message to everyone: Take responsibility for your Judaism. Only then will it truly be yours.


Tomorrow, the 28th of Nissan 5785, marks 34 years since that moment. For me, it’s a time to once again examine how much responsibility I take for Judaism—my own personal Judaism and that of my people. It’s also a time to ask whether I’m truly doing everything I can. And if I am—can I perhaps expand the boundaries of what I’m capable of, just a bit more?


Shabbat Shalom and a healthy summer,  

Rabbi Zalman Wishedski


May We Be Like the Cow!

L’chaim – May We Be Like the Cow! 

This was sometimes the blessing given by the mashpia during a farbrengen.
And now, in all my Hutzpah, I offer this same blessing to you, my dear friends:
Be like the cow.

On various occasions, we read material, attend lectures, or even go to farbrengens to learn how to become better givers—how to be better parents to our children, how to support our partners in life, how to uplift those who work with us or for us. We seek and learn tools to influence in better, healthier ways.

But sometimes, we need to learn from the cow.
When a cow grazes in the pasture, chewing healthy grass—when she eats, she isn’t thinking about the milk she’s producing to give to others. She eats for herself, for her own health. And as a result, the milk comes forth naturally—and it’s good, healthy milk.

There are times when we too must pause and nourish ourselves—for our own sake.
Only then can we continue to be a source of strength, hope, faith, and security for those who are influenced by us.

The Feast of Moshiach is one of those moments.
This coming Sunday (in Israel it takes place on the upcoming Shabbat in the evening), the last day of Pesach, toward evening, is a uniquely auspicious time in the world—a time when the light of Moshiach shines. These are moments that can impact anyone who makes themselves a vessel for redemptive influence—personally, and from there, globally.

How does one make themselves a vessel? It’s quite simple:
Eat matzah. Drink four cups of wine—four cups of redemption.

This is a time to take a bit of wine, to set aside our usual assumptions, familiar paradigms, comfortable conventions, and common conceptions—and be willing to listen with curiosity and inner openness to a redemptive consciousness.
From experience I can tell you—it’s life changing.

And the impact on our surroundings? That will come naturally.
And it will be healthier, more authentic, and more effective.

L’chaim, fellow Jews! Moshiach Now!

Shabbat Shalom and Chag Sameach,
Rabbi Zalman Wishedski

When a Protestant Christian approached me

 A few years ago, a man approached me, introducing himself as a Protestant Christian, and asked to meet with me. During our meeting, he told me the following:

"I got divorced a few months ago. I have a 10-year-old daughter who mostly lives with my ex-wife but also spends time with me. The problem is, I’m religious—and she is an atheist. I want my daughter to grow up believing in the Creator of the world, and her mother is completely opposed to that. It’s already caused a huge conflict between us."

"Can you advise me what to do? It’s really important to me that my daughter grows up to be a person of faith."

So I asked him: "Why did you come to me? I’m a Jewish rabbi, and you’re a Protestant Christian."

He replied: "A Jewish friend told me that for creative solutions, I should speak to a Chabad rabbi."

Honestly, he was right. And I didn’t even have to work very hard, because the Rebbe didn’t leave a single area of life without clear guidance on how to approach it.

I remembered the Rebbe’s long-standing campaign in America to introduce a concept called the *“Moment of Silence”* into public schools—a moment at the beginning of the day where children pause for 60 seconds to reflect on the world, its Creator, and its purpose. The Rebbe explained that this *Moment of Silence* would have a positive impact on the moral, spiritual, and ethical well-being of the youth—and by extension, the world.

I suggested to the confused father that he explain to the mother and daughter that he wasn’t asking them to *do* anything—not even to speak. Just to *be silent*—and only for 60 seconds each morning. To be silent and think about the trees and flowers, the water and the sky; to connect with their surroundings and silently give thanks for the beautiful nature around us.

 

This requires a bit of "divide and conquer." One must learn to pause and separate for a moment from what we perceive as bad, difficult, or painful—and instead look at the good. Because there’s always good, and it’s a shame to ignore it. When a person truly observes the beauty and goodness, they naturally say "thank you."

In this week's Torah portion, *Parshat Vayikra*, we learn about sacrifices. One of the most unique was the **Tamid offering**—the sacrifice brought at the beginning of every single day. Because the day should begin with gratitude. The phrase we say in the morning—*“Modeh Ani Lefanecha, Melech Chai V’kayam”* (“I give thanks before You, Living and Eternal King”)—is deeply meaningful and essential. The more deeply we live in a mindset of gratitude, the better our day will look—both for us and for those around us. Gratitude brings with it humility, modesty, faith, and a willingness to give of ourselves.

That is each person’s personal daily Tamid offering.

Try it at home.

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Zalmen Wishedski

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